I want you to look in the mirror.
What do you see?
Do you see a person who is happy, confident and comfortable in their body?
Or do you see a person who is hiding— behind baggy or old clothes, poor posture and a shallow smile?
Be honest. What do you really see?
If you look in the mirror and think, this is a person who doesn’t like herself right now, then you need to stop and reassess.
We all go through moments like these; where we feel not quite ourselves. Maybe you are not happy with your weight, or are out of shape, or totally lacking in motivation, or can’t seem to get your spark back.
And because you are not happy with yourself you may be feeling angry, sad, jealous or even out of control.
It’s okay, because you can step out of it.
This is temporary. It doesn’t have to be this way forever.
You don’t have to throw in the towel and call it a life.
Start small. Every day do something to get you back to that beautiful, confident person you used to (or want to) be.
I drove past a former client today, and I was so struck by her positive demeanor as she power-walked down the street with her head held high, looking toned and fit.
It wasn’t always this way with her, but she pushed through until she matched the vision she was carrying in her head.
So can you.
Start small and start tomorrow.
I’ve listed a few things to get you going. While these suggestions are tiny, they carry large psychological benefits; and you are fighting a mental game right now.
Eat something every day that makes you feel healthy. This can be a cleaned-up breakfast, a piece of fruit, a fresh juice or locally farmed vegetables.
Move in some way. Notice I didn’t say exercise, but if that feels right, then do it. Movement connects you to your body; dance, walk, stretch. Whatever it is, find more and varied ways to do it. For example, if you like to dance, start in your basement; then go to a concert, then try a Zumba or Salsa class, then maybe move to Aqua Zumba, etc. No pressure, just joy.
Buy a few new pieces of clothing; even if you are at the heaviest you have ever been. Nothing feels better than a nice fitting outfit. Ill-fitting and baggy clothing hides nothing, and makes you feel worse.
Create a new mental picture of yourself and do everything in your power to get there. Imagine running a 5K, or seeing yourself preparing and enjoying healthy foods, or walking into a room with confidence. “See it, believe it, achieve it.”
Do something every day that brings you happiness; take a walk, read, eat a piece of the finest chocolate. Life is meant to be savored, and when the balance is right, food finds its proper place.
Sit quietly for five minutes each morning or right before bed. Take the time to be grateful for your healthy body, and acknowledge all the good things you have done for yourself. Think about what you can do next, and envision where you are going.
Be kind, be thoughtful, and don’t give up until you can look in the mirror and really love what you see.
It’s not easy to admit when you’re in a funk, but if you just start with a minimal shift, things will begin turning in a positive direction. I promise.
I’m sending good thoughts your way. XO