What A Doula Taught Me About Life

By · April 23, 2015 · Motivation · 2 Comments
Yellow flower in a vase on the sink at home in the living room

Thirteen years ago when my son was born, my husband hired a Doula to help out during those first hectic weeks.

Since I had breastfed my daughter for a year, I was determined to give my son the same benefit. From the beginning, he was irritable (we found out later he had many allergies that were found in my breast milk).

My daughter who was not yet three, required a lot of attention; and I was exhausted, physically run down and way in over my head.

No matter what I did, I could not pull myself up and out of my funk.

I had a fever, then mastitis in my right breast, then the left, then the right, etc.

As I was sitting with the Doula one day, I asked her what I should do. She handed me a glass of water and said, “Decide to get better. Just decide.”


From that moment on I got stronger and healthier. Within a few days, I was back on my feet.

Simple and yet….

I couldn’t see it. I was too far in and too far gone.

It never occurred to me that I had a choice to feel better.

I actually had a choice.

I tell you this story because I know sometimes life can seem a little overwhelming.

Maybe you’re stuck in a really bad funk; like you can’t get yourself to workout, or eat healthy foods, or make a decision, or find a new job, etc.

There are a million reasons why we get bogged in the muck and action seems impossible.

So I am here to tell you that you do have a choice.

Sometimes you just have to hear it.

What saved me was a simple truth that cut through the fog of my misery.

So to you I say, “Decide to do better, feel better, or demand better. “

Just decide.

You actually do have a choice.

And if you need help, I am here.

What A Doula Taught Me About Life

2 Responses

  1. This is a marvelous example of how a bad experience can be an opportunity to learn something from it. And how certain people – like your doula – come into our lives for reasons we can’t anticipate.

    When we “decide” we communicate our “intention” for change to our subconscious mind. Which, in turn, creates the “energy” to manifest that change. Wayne Dyer’s book – “The Power of Intention” – cites the transforming power of intention for healing and happiness.

    Paul April 23, 2015 at 11:25 pm #
    • Paul, thank you for your comments. You are right, intention is so powerful. And believe it or not, I was just reading The Power of Intention this afternoon! Looks like we are on the same wavelength.

      Annette Alfieri April 24, 2015 at 3:24 am #

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