What To Do When You Feel Fat, Ugly & Out Of Control

By · April 25, 2013 · Dieting Health Healthy Eating Lose Weight Motivation Nutrition Psychology of Eating Recipes Weight Loss Wellness · 2 Comments

We have all had those times in our lives when we feel helpless and overwhelmed, eating out of control, and feeling fat and ugly.

As women we take care of everyone, except ourselves. When things get hectic, self-care will always fall to the bottom of the list. Interestingly, the first two things to be swept aside are healthy eating and exercise.

So when someone comes to me for weight loss, I tell them to think of excess weight as energy.  This energy is stuck with nowhere to go. In other words, it suggests an imbalance in your life.

For women, this usually means too much energy is going out, and not enough is coming in.

When we live in this state of imbalance for a long period of time, the body will eventually rebel. Physical manifestations of this inequality may be weight gain, headaches or migraines, depression, anxiety, sexual dysfunction and even cardiovascular disease. Since the body cannot speak, it throws out signals. It is up to you to heed the signs.

This is usually the point where desperate measures are needed to get you out of the vortex of despair. Fortunately, this can be easier than you think.

First, decide you have had enough and make the decision to change.

Secondly, when we feel strong we are better equipped to pull ourselves out of the hole we are in.  Since healthy eating and exercise are the first to go, they must be the first steps to reclaiming your balance. When in doubt, I tell my clients to put one foot in front of the other. Literally. Walk, walk it out, keep walking. Walk yourself out of the inertia you are in. Move the energy.

Eat in a way that honors the valuable person you are.  When you give the body the nutrients it needs, you will feel a renewed sense of vitality and the body will respond in kind.

And lastly, if you need help, ask for it. As women, we don’t ask enough.  Know that there are people out there that will always grab your hand and pull you safely to shore.

Look at these moments of chaos as a sign that it is time to reassess and acknowledge what is really important. My hope is that you will realize that it is You.

Leave a comment below and tell me about a time when you have felt out of control, and how you regained your footing.

What To Do When You Feel Fat, Ugly & Out Of Control

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  1. So I was born with this eye dysfunction called “Duane’s Syndrome”. My mom was worried about what was going on with me because one of my eyes had been closed shut since I was born, and it went on for about two months. I went through grade school and most of high school explaining to people that asked me things like “why do you always look cross-eyed when you look to the side?” or “what’s wrong with your eyes?”. People at my school used to call me “Crooked Eye” as a nickname and use it loosely as if it really was my name. Now I’m a junior in high school and I still get weird looks in the hallways and teachers asking me embarassingly if I needed to sit in the front of the class due to my “disability”. Over the years I tried to embrace the fact that my eyes will never look like other people’s, but as most women will agree, being a female is pretty much the hardest thing a person can do for a lifetime without feeling lesser than the person they are. To me, wanting to be the prettiest girl in school doesn’t really cut it, and lately I’ve been trying things to finally get myself into the mindset that at the end of the day, who really gives a shit how pretty you looked on a certain day or if you wear expensive makeup or anything like that? I do things like try a different hairstyle that I like just for me, and not anyone else. When I feel ugly or useless because of how almost every media source on the planet portrays what I am versus what I should be as a bad thing, I write down the crappiness, hold onto it for awhile, and then burn it or throw it away. It’s almost like cleansing yourself of any bad feelings, like you’re cleaning away the whiteboard and seeing yourself as a beautiful person on the inside, instead of focusing just on the outside. Embrace yourself.

    Chelsea August 6, 2013 at 1:32 am #
  2. So I was born with this eye dysfunction called “Duane’s Syndrome”. My mom was worried about what was going on with me because one of my eyes had been closed shut since I was born, and it went on for about two months. I went through grade school and most of high school explaining to people that asked me things like “why do you always look cross-eyed when you look to the side?” or “what’s wrong with your eyes?”. People at my school used to call me “Crooked Eye” as a nickname and use it loosely as if it really was my name. Now I’m a junior in high school and I still get weird looks in the hallways and teachers asking me embarassingly if I needed to sit in the front of the class due to my “disability”. Over the years I tried to embrace the fact that my eyes will never look like other people’s, but as most women will agree, being a female is pretty much the hardest thing a person can do for a lifetime without feeling lesser than the person they are. To me, wanting to be the prettiest girl in school doesn’t really cut it, and lately I’ve been trying things to finally get myself into the mindset that at the end of the day, who really gives a shit how pretty you looked on a certain day or if you wear expensive makeup or anything like that? I do things like try a different hairstyle that I like just for me, and not anyone else. When I feel ugly or useless because of how almost every media source on the planet portrays what I am versus what I should be as a bad thing, I write down the crappiness, hold onto it for awhile, and then burn it or throw it away. It’s almost like cleansing yourself of any bad feelings, like you’re cleaning away the whiteboard and seeing yourself as a beautiful person on the inside, instead of focusing just on the outside. Embrace yourself.

    Chelsea August 6, 2013 at 1:32 am #

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